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What do you do with your sexuality when you are single?

rachel miquel dufour sexuality singleness Apr 05, 2021
What do you do with your sexuality when you are single?

In a society where sexuality is everywhere, being a single Christian woman today is not easy every day.

Should we repress our sexuality and ignore it? How do we manage all these hormones that live in us?

We can learn to discover and accept that our sexuality as a gift from God, which symbolizes our relationship with Jesus, and our future communion with Him.

Sexuality is beautiful and was created by God. We are sexual beings even when we are not married.

"Can a single woman feel loved, beautiful, physically satisfied and confident without a husband by her side? "Yes, she can!

So how do you manage your sexuality when you are single?

You can discover the 3 facets of your sexuality, through an extract of my book Understanding Eve (Hurray for the Va-Jay-Jay):

Because your sexuality is primarily spiritual, I encourage you to focus on your relationship with God.

This relationship is the primary source for discovering and strengthening your identity, for feeling loved for who you are, for finding meaning and security in your life. No man, or any human relationship, can perfectly meet these four essential needs.

When you start your day, begin by thanking and praising Him for who He is, and what He has done for you: a woman. Thank Him for your body, and for the gifts and many qualities He has endowed you with.

"For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses; on the contrary, he was tempted in every way like us, but without sin. "Hebrews 4:15 (SG21)

Yes, He was tempted in all things, including sex, of course! He remained connected to his father in all circumstances.

Because your sexuality is also emotional, I encourage you to build close and intimate friendships that are balanced for your life, friendships where you can share your heart without feeling judged. Invest in your friendships, and avoid exclusivity. These friends can share your joys, sorrows, hopes, and dreams. They can support you in the possible battles of your life. Even Jesus took care to surround himself with a small circle of friends during his time on earth: his disciples.

Because your sexuality is also physical, I encourage you to learn to identify the sexual feelings in your body so you can channel them on a physical level. What physical activities suit you best? Perhaps fitness or dance? It can be an individual activity or group sport. Either way, find an activity that will allow your body to release the feel-good hormones you need to feel calm.

Another idea for building good habits in your life is to have a weekly "love date" with Jesus. Plan a specific time set aside for you and Jesus to take care of yourself while focusing your thoughts on Him.

There is no reason to be ashamed of what you feel in your heart and body. Thank the Lord for a body that works!

Learn to guard your body while you are single, your sexuality is precious. It is worth the wait, believe me.

Rachel Miquel Dufour 


Learn about what healthy sexuality looks! While you wait for the person God has for you, you can prepare your heart, mind and body to receive God's best



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